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24 Questions to Get Your Grandchild Talking About School

24 questions to get your grand child talking about school24 Questions To Get Your Grandchild Talking About School

Why do you as a grandparent need 24 questions to get your grandchild talking about school?   Do you long for that toddler who babbled all the time when they were younger?  Has he/she been replaced all of a sudden by an older acting child who answeres with one word like fine, or good?

After your grandchildren began to grow up and find their own identity.  Or at least began to search for it, you may find yourself a bit off key when you are visiting with them.  

You are no longer talking to your young grandchild. This grandchild has progressed beyond the vocabulary you were accustomed to using.  You want to establish a visiting relationship but are at a loss for how. 

Now what?

You may no longer be able to really relate.  The feeling of grappling for something to visit about can make it easier to retreat behind silence.  

This is why these suggestions to help relate to your grandchild when they start school.  The words will be different for grandchild once they start school. 

All of a sudden there is nothing to talk about.  You don’t get to spend as much time with them.  They are learning how to relate to their friends and classmates.  

They are quickly racing past with their growing and learning.  When you have longer periods between visits, it soon can become difficult to return to that chatty easy relationship you once enjoyed.   

All of a sudden there is nothing to talk about. You want to be able to visit with them without the feeling that you are “pulling teeth” to get a conversation going about school.  

You just need to have a starting place with this grown-up kid you once bounced on your knee. 

Try Again

When you ask “how was school today?” and have the answer come back as “good.”  It is time to reask your question.

  1.  Who did you play with the most today at recess?  
  2.   Is this a new friend, or did you already know them?
  3.   Does he/she they near you in your classroom?
  4.   What did you play together?

For an older child, maybe the word “play” could be interchanged to  “hang out with?”  They are learning how to relate to their friends and classmates.  They are quickly racing ahead with their growing and learning. 

When you have longer periods between visits, it soon can become difficult to return to that chatty easy relationship you once enjoyed.

Silence not the answer

Too quickly their answers to your questions about school become one-word answers that will make follow-up conversations or questions more difficult.  

With the thought in mind that no one wants to lose the ability to talk to their grandchild, these suggested ideas of how to ask your grandkids about school are offered:

    5.   What is your favorite part of the day?
    6.    Is it the teacher, or the other kids that made you like this?
    7.    Did something happen today that made you laugh? 
    8.   Tell me about how it happened.
For that child who just won’t actually talk about their day, you might try the other side of happy with sad. 

Reverse the approach

   9.   Is there one thing or activity that you dislike about your day? 
 10.   Why do you dislike this activity? 
  11.   Does one of the kids come to school mad every day? 
  12.  What does this kid do that makes you know he is mad?
Every day will not start out great, nor end well.  Sometimes your grandchild may just be just tired. 

They are people too

  What was the absolute best thing at school today?  
  14.    Do you think the same fun time will happen tomorrow?   
  15.    Is your teacher a fun teacher.  Is she/he strict?   
  16.    What do you like about your teacher?
  17.    Can you think of one thing you learned today?  A new word?  Learn a             different song?  Read a good book?   Meet a new person?
  18.   What do you like the best about school?  Recess?  Reading, Sports?
  19.   Are there any new students in your classroom this year?
  20.   Are there more boys than girls in your classroom?
  21.   Is there a friend or classmate you do not enjoy being around now? 
  22.    Did anything happen at school today that you wished had not?      
  23.   Your favorite part of the day that you want to happen again tomorrow?
  24.   What can you do to make tomorrow a great day?

Often repeating the questions

Or just using other words to ask will break the cycle of one-word answers. The main thing to remember is that your grandchild may be having trouble identifying how to answer your questions.  
They want you to be happy with them as you were when they were younger.

It is a learning time for all of you.

Add having to learn how to talk to you in the new voice they are finding for themselves as they grow up.  Being interested, not judging when visiting with your grandchildren is a better way to grow new conversational pathways with each other. 
Being able to expess themselves conversationally and being comfortable doing so is all part of the maturing process.  As a grandparent, you can provide a time for them to practice these skills they are learning in a practical way.  
I am sure that you often received questions as you were at this stage.  If you don’t remember, just think about when your kids were this age.  They were more confused about how to answer than trying to avoid conversation with their grandparents.

Get your grandchild talking about school.

Do your self and your grandchild a favor by helping them learn how to have these conversations.  They will be glad and so will you. This may well be a door that is opened that will be used often as they go about this business of growing up. 
Do you want to be a part of their lives?  Learn to talk to them.  You may find yourself chatting about things that really do not interest you, but it is talking, always better than not talking with your grandchildren.
Use 21 questions to get your grandchild talking about school.  Be aware as much as possible of what is going on for them.

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